excerpted from the
2004 Weekend Leadership Event
Review your performance. Hereís what my father said, "Always do more than you are paid for to make an investment in your future."ÖReview your performanceóyour language with your children. Say, "Have I been too harsh, too strong, too stubborn? Should I have learned to be easier and mixed more compassion with the tough stuff I have to deal with?" And yes, prayer will help. Ask for help to say the right thing, not to ruin it all by poor communication. Face your fears. Thatís how you conquer them. Donít dismiss them; face them. Say, "Hereís what Iím afraid of. I wonder what I could do to change that." Exercise your willpower to change direction. You donít have to keep doing what youíve been doing the last 6 years if itís not yielding the benefits you want.ÖPick a new destination and go that way. Use your willpower to start the process. You donít have to repeat last year. Clean up the errors. Invest it now in the next year. Watch it make the difference. Admit your mistakes. Sometimes you have to admit them to others.ÖHereís some of the best phrases in the English language, "Iím sorry." The reason those are good words is because they could start a whole new relationship. It could start two people going in a whole new direction. Simple, not easy.ÖHereís the big one. Admit your mistakes to yourself. You donít have to babble about them to everyone in the neighborhood. But it doesnít hurt to sit down and have a conversation with yourself and say, "Thereís no use kidding myself. Hereís where I really am." Refine your goals. Start the process. Set some higher goals. Reach for some higher purpose. Go for something beyond what you thought you could do. Believe in yourself. Youíve got to believe in God and youíve got to believe in the community. Youíve got to believe in the possibilities. Youíve got to believe in the economy. Youíve got to believe that tomorrow can be better than today. Hereís the big one. Believe in yourself. There isnít a skill you canít learn; there isnít a discipline you canít try; there isnít a class you canít take; there isnít a book you couldnít read. Ask for wisdom. This is communication of the highest source. Ask for wisdom that creates answers. Ask for the wisdom that creates faith to believe things are possible. Ask for wisdom to deal with the challenges for today and tomorrow, to deal with the challenges your family brings you. Donít wish it was easier; wish you were better. Live with intensity. You might as well turn it up a notch or two. Invest more of you in whatever you do. Be a little stronger; be a little wiser. Step up your vitality contribution. Put everything youíve got into everything you do and then ask for more vitality, more strength and more vigor, more heart and more soul. Find your place. If you just work on a job, find the best place you can serve well, and sure enough theyíll ask you to occupy a better place. And if you keep doing a job well, do the very best you can. Thatís your best way out. Hereís a Bible phrase. If you work on your gifts, theyíll make a place for you. Demand integrity from yourself. Integrity is like loyalty. You canít demand it of someone else; you can only demand it of yourself. Be the best example of loyalty, and youíll get some loyal followers. Be the best example of integrity, and youíll have people around you who have integrity. Lead the way.