The Longer You Hold It, the Heavier it Gets

Steve Gilbert
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"Never give up.
Never give in.
Never become hostile…
Hate is too big a burden to bear."

~ John Lewis

In their book Getting Back to Happy Marc and Angel Chernoff tell a story about a psychology professor who holds up a glass pitcher filled with water and asks the class how heavy they think it is.

After various guesses, the professor explained that the weight of the pitcher depended on how long she had to hold it. If she only held onto it for a brief time it was not a problem. Hold onto it longer, though, and the weight will seem to increase. Hold onto it even longer and your arm will like cramp and become painful.

The bottom line is the longer you hold the pitcher the heavier it will feel.

"Your worries, frustrations, disappointments and stressful thoughts are very much like this glass of water," she told the class. "Think about them for a little while and nothing drastic happens. Think about them a bit longer and you begin to feel noticeable pain. Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb and paralyzed, incapable of doing anything else until you drop them."


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