"One of the biggest threats to building
a great team and organization is complaining."
So, this week I want
to encourage you to implement "The No Complaining Rule". Not because
it will make everyone around you happier, although it will, but
because it will help you experience more joy, peace, success,
positive relationships and better teamwork.
To help you break out of a "complaining" rut here are five things
you can do instead of complain. These tips will help you realize you
are not powerless. You have the power to choose your beliefs and
actions. And in your focus on the positive instead of the negative
you'll find the faith, strength and confidence to take on life's
challenges and identify the solutions to your complaints.
- Practice Gratitude. Research shows that when we count
three blessings a day, we get a measurable boost in happiness
that uplifts and energizes us. It's also physiologically
impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. Two
thoughts cannot occupy our mind at the same time. If you are
focusing on gratitude, you can't be negative. You can also
energize and engage your coworkers by letting them know you are
grateful for them and their work.
- Praise Others. Instead of complaining about what
others are doing wrong, start focusing on what they are doing
right. Praise them and watch as they create more success as a
result. Of course, point out their mistakes so they can learn
and grow, but make sure you give three times as much praise as
- Focus on Success. Start a success journal. Each night
before you go to bed, write down the one great thing about your
day. The one great conversation, accomplishment, or win that you
are most proud of. Focus on your success, and you'll look
forward to creating more success tomorrow.
- Let Go. Focus on the things that you have the power
to change, and let go of the things that are beyond your
control. You'll be amazed that when you stop trying to control
everything, it all somehow works out. Surrender is the answer.
- Pray. Scientific research shows that daily prayer
reduces stress; boosts positive energy; and promotes health,
vitality, and longevity. When you are faced with the urge to
complain or you are feeling stressed to the max, stop, be still,
plug-in to the ultimate power, and recharge.